What To Do After A Bad Job Interview

 

 

Everyone has bad job interviews (including me!).

It’s not the end of the world. Actually, it’s very normal to have a bad job interview.

However, if you are a high achiever or have imposter syndrome, it can be even more difficult to bounce back because the disappointment can be deeper if we make it mean something about ourselves.

So what do you do?

I’ve recently experienced this myself (listen to the podcast episode for the details!) and this is what I would tell a career coaching client, friend and myself.

Let’s get started!

 

1. Allow Yourself To Feel Disappointed After The Bad Interview

It’s okay to feel negative feelings. So much of society pushes us to brush off and repress negative feelings and replace it with toxic positivity or numb it. But instead of trying to run away from the feeling your feeling, lean into it.

If you feel disappointed, let yourself feel it instead of repressing it because if you try to bottle it up, it will slowly leak out to the parts of your life and you will feel disappointed and embarrassed for longer (trust me, I’ve been there).

Instead, try reframing your mindset to one that acknowledges and praises your efforts instead of the result.

The reason why you are disappointed is because you went for a job that you really wanted, which means it was uncomfortable. This is something I really coach my clients through because it is easy to play it safe and there are definitely lateral job postings you could have applied to. However, you applied to a job that you really wanted and it’s important to understand that this is why you are feeling disappointment.

Instead of putting pressure on yourself on the result of the interview, give yourself credit for trying.

 

2. Talk About The Bad Interivew With Another Person or Yourself Through Journaling

After you feel the disappointment, it’s really important to allow yourself to release it from your mind. Talk to a family member or friend about the experience and allow yourself to get perspective on the situation. It’s not the end of the world and a trusted family member or friend

If you don’t have someone you can confide in, or are introverted (like me!), journal about your experience. When I am journaling, I like to think about my past self and my future self. What does that mean? When I am journaling, I also like to think about my future self and what “Future Kim” would tell me to do in this type of situation. 99% of the time it would be not to be so hard on myself. And the reason I know that is because sometimes I like to think about what I would tell my past self, the 20-year-old version of myself when things went badly back then. When you are in the moment, everything seems like the end of the world, but when you are able to get some perspective, it doesn’t seem so bad. In a few weeks, months, and especially years, this won’t have been a big deal.

Think about what your future self to tell you now. Chances are, she would tell you to be kind to yourself and not beat yourself up for this situation; it will be okay.

 

3. Follow Up With A Thank You Email And Address Your Mistakes

Now that you have addressed the mindset component, let’s look at the actions you can take to rectify the situation. Here’s my secret: the follow-up email.

A thank you email should be sent at the end of every interview – good or bad. However, this is especially important if you had a bad interview.  When you send the thank you email, make sure to take this opportunity to address anything that you felt like you did badly during the interview.

For example, if you felt like you didn’t answer an interview question well, elaborate on it in the email. Here’s a template to get you started:

“Dear Mr./Ms. Last Name:

Thank you very much for your time interviewing me for the position of [job title]. I  really appreciated the opportunity to learn more about this position, meet you and [insert other interviewer’s names].

After our interview, I realized that I neglected to include [insert a few short sentences of what you felt you missed during the interview. Keep it concise.]

I truly enjoyed our discussion on … [include some talking points of the projects or topics discussed in the interview].

Thank you again for your time. I look forward to hearing from you soon. 

Have a great week,

Your name”

Last year, a member of the MLA community DMed me on Instagram what to do after her bad interview and I replied with this advice. She sent a video in her email because she felt like she didn’t show enough energy during the interview, and the company LOVED it.

If you felt like you did really poorly for external reasons (like you had just found out some really bad news before the interview), you can always ask for a 2nd interview as well. 

A job interview is not over until a candidate is selected. So if you feel like you had a bad job interview, make sure to follow up. Not only does this allows you to correct your mistake, but it releases you of any pressure regarding the bad interview. You have done the best you can and ultimately, the end decision is now up to the interviewer but there is no longer any reason to feel guilty or embarrassed for your bad job interview.

Bonus: If there was more than one interviewer (such as if it was a panel), email the interviewers separately and personalize it!

 

4. Reflect On The Experience And How To Improve

After you have worked on the mindset and emailed the interviewer, it’s time to reflect on how to improve in the future.  Look back at everything that went you felt went badly and how it could be improved on for the future.

If you were late, next time give yourself more time to get ready or account for traffic.

However, most of the time a job interview goes badly because you didn’t answer the interview questions to the best of your ability. Reflect on the experience and how you can improve. Personally, I like to write down every single question that they asked me during the job interview and how I answered it. Many times, I realize after-the-fact that I did not choose the best example for a question, especially if the interviewer asked me a question that I wasn’t prepared to answered.

Write down the questions and your responses for when you prepare for future interviews. This will not be your only interview and it’s important to take this as a learning experience to improve for the future.

This is something I really coach my clients on – everything is a learning experience. During our interview prep, I teach my clients how to use an accomplishments matrix to choose the best answer for future interviews. If you need help with this, my coaching program will be opening up at the end of Nov 2020!

 

5. Ask For Feedback After The Bad Interview

This is a bonus tip! The best way to learn from a bad interview is to learn what interviewer’s perspective.

If you did not get the job, ask for feedback after you receive an email saying that you were not selected to move forward. Now, this does not always work. Sometimes employers will not respond or they respond with a generic answer, but sometimes you will actually get detailed feedback.

Especially if there were multiple rounds in the interview (in the podcast episode I talked about how I did multiple exams and interviews over the course of 2 years for a job), the employer may be willing to help because they appreciate your time as well. This also applies to internal job opportunities. If you were applying for a promotion within the company, your company probably wants you to stay and grow and would be willing to provide feedback on how to improve in the future.

When you ask for feedback, remember to ask about what went well and what didn’t. It’s just as important to remember to ask what went well so you know what to continue doing!

 

 

Remember everyone has bad job interviews – that’s a part of life! And that actually means your growing and pushing to new heights in your career. The most important take away from a bad interview is not to curl up into a ball feeling embarrassed or ashamed or run away from it, it’s to accept it and learn from it.

Good luck!

Author: Kimberly

Hi there! My name is Kimberly and I created MLA as a personal development, career, and finance resource for millennials. MLA focuses on helping career-driven millennials create the personal development habits to achieve work-life balance and manage their money. Throughout this blog, you’ll find articles that give specific and detailed advice because I’m not into the fluffy advice. There’s plenty of that on the internet. Here you will find tangible advice on how to find a rewarding career (that you love!), where you can help others, and learn how to save and invest your money for the future. I hope you’ll follow along!

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